We live with the expectation that an investment will be followed by a return. We give in order to get. We expect that the return will be value-added. And, while that may be reasonable and understandable in the financial world, it does not necessarily apply in the emotional world. Relationships founder when one of the … Continue reading A Testament To Investment
Down, Up Or Sideways
When faced with challenges we have two choices...quit or push on. The first choice offers no resolution. The second brings with it the chance of success. The problem with quitting is that we will probably never know how close we were to achieving our initial aim. Falling short of our target - whether physical, emotional … Continue reading Down, Up Or Sideways
The Lies Of The Unwise
If a lie is told often enough, with conviction and enthusiasm, there is a very good chance that it may be accepted as truth. The result of believing that something wrong is something right sits between the two extremes of minor confusion and ultimate disaster. In short, we have the responsibility to ourselves to act … Continue reading The Lies Of The Unwise
The Traction Of Action
The solutions to many of the situations and circumstances that cause us grief are often obvious. Experience and education combine to give us ability to recognise problems. We know what hurts or confuses. We can often see the source of whatever it is that is causing us to worry excessively or to struggle. Despite that, … Continue reading The Traction Of Action
The Deal With Disappointment
One of life's greatest survival skills is the ability to survive disappointment. We are often confronted with the situation where reality falls short of expectation. Things do not always turn out the way we had envisaged they would. Our reaction can be an emotional one but, at times, it can also be physical. We can … Continue reading The Deal With Disappointment
The Difference A Day Makes
Change is not always obvious. There are times when it can be almost imperceptible, but it is happening. Given time, what was ceases to be and becomes what is. The world keeps turning and we are faced with one of two choices...either accept change or refuse it. Reality, however, dictates that refusal is pointless and … Continue reading The Difference A Day Makes
The Challenge Of Change
It can be more than frustrating to repeat an action and get an unexpected result. Accepting that we live in a world that is, in equal parts, both predictable and unpredictable can be discombobulating. But uncertainty sits alongside certainty and surprises happen. The best we can hope for is to continue going along for the … Continue reading The Challenge Of Change
Turning On Delight
Happiness lives inside us all. It can be impacted by exterior incidents and circumstances. It can be battered and bruised. There are times when it is easier to access than at other times. The focus can become distorted. But it remains as a super power...a personal powerful resource, a survival tool without peer. However it … Continue reading Turning On Delight
Surviving Or Thriving
Connection requires effort. Ignored, it starts to erode. The result can be individual isolation. We need the security and comfort of connection. Sharing and caring are at the core of our emotional security. We are all unique in our individuality but, at the same time, there is so much we have in common with those … Continue reading Surviving Or Thriving
Where Honesty Lies
It's annoyingly true that we all have the tendency to hear what we want to hear and disregard the rest. Likewise we see what we want to see and turn a blind eye to that which we find difficult or unpalatable. It's all to do with following the path of least resistance. The problem is … Continue reading Where Honesty Lies
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