Here, Now Or Then, When.

Our present can be dictated by our past. Our future can be fuelled by our fears. We get to decide the path we will follow. We make our own choices.

The then and when are part of our here and now and must be accepted as piece of the journey we are on. We may be able to retell our story but it is not possible to rewrite it. If it happened it is real and if it’s real we have to accept it, sometimes without fully understanding.

The only certainty is the here and now. What we see when we look around and what we hold in our hands is all about who we are and where we are. Place and time cannot be ignored. Reality and pretence make difficult bedfellows.

Refusal and denial mess with our mental wellbeing. Clarity can be blurred and confusion fostered if we lose our focus. For that reason alone, our focus must be kept on day and space we now occupy.

And that is enhanced by an attitude of gratitude. Every new day is a fresh opportunity; a new chance. Just as we are enough as individuals, each day is enough in, and of, itself.

We can only work with what we have and that is never truer than when we apply it to our mental health.

Thoughts are random. But they are nontheless important. How we react to those thoughts will direct us. Finding the sweet spot between over-thinking and under-thinking is not always easy. A persistent effort to find that sweet spot is, however, essential.

We are not what we think. We are how we act. And we act in the moment.

That’s why what we think about what we have thought is important. That’s the action that will determine our next move.