Happiness lives inside us all. It can be impacted by exterior incidents and circumstances. It can be battered and bruised. There are times when it is easier to access than at other times. The focus can become distorted. But it remains as a super power...a personal powerful resource, a survival tool without peer. However it … Continue reading Turning On Delight
Author: garybentleycounselling
After 40 years in the media, several years in business and a total of 37 years married life, I am now a fulltime and qualified counsellor with a passion to help individuals become the best person they can be.
Surviving Or Thriving
Connection requires effort. Ignored, it starts to erode. The result can be individual isolation. We need the security and comfort of connection. Sharing and caring are at the core of our emotional security. We are all unique in our individuality but, at the same time, there is so much we have in common with those … Continue reading Surviving Or Thriving
Where Honesty Lies
It's annoyingly true that we all have the tendency to hear what we want to hear and disregard the rest. Likewise we see what we want to see and turn a blind eye to that which we find difficult or unpalatable. It's all to do with following the path of least resistance. The problem is … Continue reading Where Honesty Lies
The Wages Of Rages
Anger is rife. Agitation and uncertainty abound. We struggle - to a greater or lesser degree - with the issue of abandonment...specifically the way we feel we are required to cease being one person to become another. It's in the gap between the two personalities that we can become confused. At its worst, we can … Continue reading The Wages Of Rages
Present And Accounting For
There is no time like the present. Now is here and it is happening in real time. It can also be said that there is no time like the past. Nor is there no time like the future. But what has been is done and no-one knows what is to come. Our next breath is … Continue reading Present And Accounting For
Happy Is As Happy Does
There are times when we feel compelled to attempt to be all things to all people. The attitude is fuelled by the mistaken belief that it is our sole responsibility to put to rights all that surrounds us. We want to do whatever it takes to ensure that everyone else is happy. Such attempts are … Continue reading Happy Is As Happy Does
That Thinking Feeling
The way we think and the thoughts that we have are of far less importance than the way we feel. Thoughts are random...feelings can be controlled and directed. Feelings are very much about reaction and it's the way we respond to the thoughts that we have that will dictate the direction of our lives. There … Continue reading That Thinking Feeling
Now. It Is Ours.
Living in the moment and making the most of each and every day does not excuse us from the necessity to do some planning. What it does, however, is give us the focus to live the lives we have as fully as possible. Spontaneity may be exciting but it is not the answer to everything. … Continue reading Now. It Is Ours.
Here, Now And Today
We draw strength, reassurance and confidence from the individuals around us. Unfortunately the opposite is also true. If we lack insight or vision, the company we keep can have an adverse effect on our wellbeing. It starts at a psychological level. In time, however, what we think and how we interpret that which we see … Continue reading Here, Now And Today
Correction Through Connection
Many people find the topic of mental wellbeing far too confrontational...and that attitude is potentially dangerous. Choosing to ignore or avoid the help that is available is choosing to accept a state of mind that is often less than it could be. Struggles can be eased...the psychological load that we carry can be lightened - … Continue reading Correction Through Connection
Gary Bentley Counselling 