Self image is often overlooked when it comes to the issue of mental anguish and wellbeing. But what we think of the person we are is a predictor of what we will think of the people around us. If we have a poor relationship with ourselves then it is more thank likely we will have … Continue reading Thinking, Seeing, Being
No Venture, No Gain
We are surrounded by negativity and nastiness. We are confronted by the worst of human nature each and every day. Some of us have jobs we can barely tolerate. For others it's relationships that are particularly taxing. While it's not possible to control the negativity and nastiness that happens to us it is altogether possible … Continue reading No Venture, No Gain
Listen And Learn
There are those who would have us believe that talk is cheap. But that is a sweeping statement and it warrants consideration. If talk is cheap then it can follow that words have little value. Clearly that is wrong. Words - and the way they are used through both association and emphasis - can be … Continue reading Listen And Learn
The Art Of Deception
Deception has become a modern era byword. If we are not practicing it at one level or another we are victims of it. There are those around us who want to take advantage of both our trust and our gullibility. They seek to profit from our misfortune. They have no qualms when it comes to … Continue reading The Art Of Deception
The Scare Of Success
So much energy put into the effort of attempting to make things the way we would prefer them to be. What we want, however, is not always what we get or what we need. A lot of emotional and physical strength is wasted struggling with issues and individuals over which we have neither control nor … Continue reading The Scare Of Success
Honest To Goodness
There's a flipside to over-enthusiastic self-criticism. At the other extreme lies the perception of self-perfection. While some of us can see no right in what we think and do, there are others who can see no wrong. Both extremes need re-examination and adjustment in a bid to restore balance. Balance brings with it some of … Continue reading Honest To Goodness
Expect The Unexpected
The famous quote tells us that nothing is certain except death and taxes. And it's easy to accept and understand that both death and taxes will impact on everyone's life. But a certainty that is all too easy to overlook is the certainty of change. Nothing remains the same. Not every change is immediately obvious. … Continue reading Expect The Unexpected
Anxiety Is For Keeps
We can either work to control our level of anxiety or step back and give it the power to take over our life. The one thing we are unable to do is to eliminate anxiety. We must accept the fact that there are things that will cause us to worry...and some of us worry more … Continue reading Anxiety Is For Keeps
The I’s Have It
It's easy to believe that what we think locks us into being the person we are. But that is too simple. Why we think what we think is vitally important. The what and the why in combination result in the who. Change and growth are always possible. We can choose to accept or choose to … Continue reading The I’s Have It
Look, See, Do
Avoidance is not the answer. If there is an elephant in the room there is an elephant in the room. Pretending otherwise is living in self denial. There can be no satisfaction without action, no getting done without the doing. And yet, all too often, we choose the path of least resistance. The easy option … Continue reading Look, See, Do
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