If the answer we get fails to match with the answer we want do we rejig the question or re-examine our point of view? Far too much time can be spent attempting to remould the world around us to fit our perceived needs and match our beliefs. What starts as an external problem can become … Continue reading Finding Space For Our Place →

Between the two extremes of intention and outcome lies a sea of potential disappointment and error. What we want is not always what we get. But while failure is an option, so too is success. The telling factor is the effort expended. Change for the better takes work. Change for the worse can require little … Continue reading Believe And Begin →

Absence does not necessarily make the heart grow fonder. And presence can cause conflict. Good relationships are not accidental. They require maintenance and management. More than that they call for compromise, care and attention. They need balance. Balance can be difficult to achieve and even more difficult to maintain. Ideally any connection with another individual … Continue reading Inside, Outside, Upside, Down →

The opinion we have of the person we know ourselves to be can dictate the direction personal connections and relationship will either fail or develop. But that is far from the end of the story. It begins with honest reappraisal and self-assessment. It starts by looking inside and evaluating both our position and our potential. … Continue reading Keeping A Knows Ahead →

Life is made up of positive and negative experiences, good and bad, happy and sad, ups and downs. Key to psychological health and wellbeing is the deliberate and calculated use of choice. And no-one can do that for us. There is much that has happened and will happen around us over which we have no … Continue reading The Power To Choose →

Self-care is all too often overlooked. There is a driving tendency to take care of the needs of those around us before we turn our attention to the needs of the person inside of us. We are quick to set aside our own sadness and suffering in a bid to ease the sadness and suffering … Continue reading The What And When Of Who →

We only have varying degrees of control over those things that occur outside of ourselves. That control sits inside a spectrum that ranges from absolute to nil. As difficult as it can sometimes be to accept, there are situations and circumstances which we are unable to direct or influence. The change we want is unachievable. … Continue reading The Power Of Choice →

There comes a time when it is absolutely essential that we unhook, disconnect and rest our minds. The alternative is that we run the risk of becoming unhinged. Inbuilt warning systems serve to warn us when the time is right. We feel them. We hear them. The problem is that those warnings can be ignored. … Continue reading A Little Piece Of Peace →

We do ourselves no favours if we miss the significance of this very point in time. All that has gone before - good, bad, happy and sad - has brought us to this moment. The past has gone. There are no remakes or do-overs. We did what we did with the chances and opportunities that … Continue reading Being In The Now →