More often than not we face ongoing difficulty when it comes to dealing with trauma and crisis. The day of the event calls for action, the ongoing weeks and months require reaction. It's our ability to survive a setback that determines our mental stability and, ultimately, our happiness. Anything too difficult to deal with at … Continue reading We Are Enough →

Anxiety is a self-inflicted state of mind that can become controlling if not properly addressed. And one of the principal generators of anxiety is an individual's need to meet real or perceived expectations. There will always be people who need things from us whether emotional, physical or material. At the same time there will always … Continue reading Needs, Wants And Woes →

It's important to plan but far more important to be adaptable. At the very least we should expect the unexpected and work on boosting our coping mechanisms long before we have to call on them. We are all impacted by anxiety...some cope with it while others suffer because of it. Fear of future unknowns is … Continue reading The Spectrum Of Sanity →

When it comes to the vital issue of our own mental health we should be putting more effort into talking and less into thinking. It's important to expose the thoughts that are happening in the darker recesses of our own minds and hearts to the healing power of communication. Thinking gives us one perspective. And … Continue reading Caring Is Sharing →

For a long time now necessity has been hailed as the mother of invention. And I find no argument with that. But I'd like then to nominate survival as the father of re-invention. The way we negotiate our way through life is by a constant process of re-invention and, quite often, it can be so … Continue reading Be The Change →

There is something of ultimate significance that lies between the exhilaration of expectation and the desolation of disappointment. It's a little thing called life. A life well lived is a life lived between extremes. The beauty is that we get to pick our point of reference. We can decide for ourselves whether we will allow … Continue reading A Little Thing Called Life →

Responsibility is something no-one can avoid. We can try to ignore it, we can hide from it and we can even deny it but, ultimately, we must face it. The problem is that responsibility has two extremes - celebration or condemnation. We seek the former but do our best to avoid the latter. We prefer … Continue reading The Sensibility Of Responsibility →

Life's lessons are generally learned through trial and error. It's very rare to get something right at the first attempt. What that should teach us is that there is more to be gained through missing the mark than in hitting the target. But the most important part of that lesson is the need to try … Continue reading Sting In The Fail Tale →

There's no doubt that many a mistake is made in haste. A lack of forethought and no heed paid to potential consequence add up to what could be a serious error. Hindsight can be a great leveller but it can also be an unreliable teacher. But there's a far more regrettable path that we can … Continue reading Action Beats Words →

Closure is rarely a simple thing. Nor is it necessarily unemotional. Ending something that had a beginning and a middle that involved commitment and effort is often difficult. Everything is built on relationships. It's how we deal with the connection and disconnection with those around us that determines how we live our lives. It's true … Continue reading The Right To Rewrite →