Self care is anything but selfish. And it's a long way from self-serving or being selfcentred. The problem is that people who take more than they are prepared to give are all too ready to aim unfair and unreasonable accusations at those around them. Guilt-tripping is a tool used to sow the seeds of self-doubt. … Continue reading Keep Self Off The Shelf →

Change is not necessarily calamitous or catastrophic. More often than not change is subtle and incremental. The only certainty is that change is a reality. Who and what we were a decade ago can be vastly different to who and what we are today. What we once thought can vary greatly from what we now … Continue reading Meaning More To Me →

There's a danger in consistently trying to go above and beyond. When we continue to exceed reasonable physical and mental limits we run the risk of burning out. But then there's little but disappointment and frustration in not trying at all. The best place to be is between the two extremes. Finding that sweet spot … Continue reading Listen And Learn →

The past can be seen as either a series of milestones or a collection of millstones. The milestones point the way forward while the millstones hold us back. Living our best life means finding the balance between the two. It's impossible to be without having been but, all too often, we allow what was to … Continue reading The Problematic Past →

There will be times when the world demands more than we believe we have to give. It's when we are overwhelmed that we can be at our most vulnerable. Our situation can be compounded by the simple fact that stress can impair our judgement and fear can cloud our commonsense. Decisions made and actions taken … Continue reading Comfort In Company →

For many of us, the sound of silence is deafening and it's never louder than when we are alone. Even if there is no noise around us there will always be noise within us. It's possible to shut out the world or to feel we have been shut out by the world but we can … Continue reading The Responsibility Of Self →

Life is lived at a frenetic pace...and we pay a price for that. Change is all around us and that can be confusing. Our physical health suffers. Our mental health suffers. It's easy to lose sight of the fact that both the physical and the mental are linked; that, ideally, body and mind work together. … Continue reading The Hour Is Ours →

The way forward is not always easy. The prospect of stepping into the unknown can trigger a wide range of emotions. As a general rule we are far more content with what we know than with what we anticipate. But a life well lived is a life which embraces change. Every day should be seen … Continue reading The Key To Living →

It's generally understood that everyone has their limit...their breaking point...that moment in time when coping mechanisms fail and the grip on sanity slips. But there's a gap between understanding and reality. It's in that gap that most of us spend most of our time. The survival instinct is strong. The reality is that most people … Continue reading Believe In Belief →

Privacy and solitude have their place. There are times when when need to step back, untangle a few of the emotional knots in our lives and languish in the peace of our own company. But, for most people, those times are rare. What we crave above all else is companionship and connection. For the sake … Continue reading Them, Then And There →