Opinions matter. People matter. An opinion is the expression of individuality…an expression of judgement. An opinion is a presumption, a point of view, an assumption made by an individual based on their own life experience.
Opinions are a personal view. As such, opinions are always open to question. They are a catalyst for thought and discussion. They are a first step in the decision-making process.
Opinions are more a reflection of those who hold them than they are of the subject matter. Opinions can be wrong or they can be right. They can be constructive or they can be destructive. Much depends on the intent of the person who holds and expresses the opinion. Outcomes can sit at any point on the emotional spectrum. And that’s something we all too readily forget.
We all seek approval. We want our existence to be acknowledged by the mainstream. We want recognition for our contribution. We value positive opinions, praise and encouragement from those we respect.
There are occasions however where opinion can be turned into character assassination or unjustified abuse; where socially accepted boundaries are breached; where the intent is more derisive than respectful.
There comes a time when the value of an opinion must be questioned. By implication that means pitting another’s opinion against one that is self held and then judging worth.
It’s vital that we should know what we think and why we think it…particularly when it comes to the issue of personal value.
We are our most strident critic; we are our own worst enemies. If we are unable to appreciate and love the person that we know ourselves to be then perhaps we should be considering change. We can always be better.
Self acceptance and understanding is a refuge… our armour against any potentially damaging opinions of others.
Gary Bentley Counselling 