The Inevitability of Disappointment

It’s in that gap between expectation and realisation that we encounter disappointment. The script we had written in our own heads is all too rarely adhered to in the real world. What we want is not always what we get. But what we get is what we have to work with.

The spiritual and emotional deflation that comes with disappointment is the true reality. We ignore it at our peril.

Bottled emotions turn toxic. Negativity feeds negativity.

But just we can set in motion that destructive cycle that robs us of our self-confidence, common sense and vision it’s altogether possible to accept discouragement and setback as educational and an unavoidable and even necessary as part of life’s process.

It’s by identifying and understanding the darkness of disappointment that we build the foundation to allow ourselves to recognise and enjoy the sunshine of success. Failure on either side can be disastrous.

Life is a continuous process of finding our own point of balance and holding it for as long as possible. Strategies vary as much as results. What works for one may not work for another. There will always be individuals and events that will upset the equilibrium just as there will always be individuals and events that will restore the balance. Developing and nurturing the skill to differentiate between positive and negative, good and evil, support and betrayal is vital.

The only certainty is that we can surrender or we can choose to take charge. The decision is ours. The struggle is ours. The result is ours.

There will be times when we disappoint ourselves. We must accept that we are flawed and resolve to continue working on being a better version of ourselves.

No-one else can live our life for us. What we do with who we are, what we have and whatever comes our way is entirely up to us.