There are at least two difficulties when it comes to the issue of planning. One is necessity and the second is the very real possibility of ultimate futility. The problem we face is that it's not possible to have one without the other. We are all aware of the fact that failing to plan is … Continue reading A Monumental Moment
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Testing The Truth
Ignoring the truth is no way to disempower the truth. What is real and true will remain real and true despite the very best efforts of some to make it appear less than it is. When every effort to reframe it is dead and gone, truth will survive. We all have our ways of twisting … Continue reading Testing The Truth
The Challenge Of Choice
We are given many opportunities to challenge ourselves...our beliefs, our behaviours, our thinking and our perceptions. It's only by accepting those challenges that can hope to gain the information we need to make the changes necessary for our growth and development. The trap is that acceptance is not mandatory. We all have a choice. We … Continue reading The Challenge Of Choice
Halt Harm And Heal
When facing a crisis we often have the awkward and unsettling tendency to first consider the worst possible outcome. The bad takes precedence over the good...the dark over the light. In short, we abandon logic. Correct reasoning gets thrown to the wind. Fear leads to panic, panic to confusion and confusion to error. There is … Continue reading Halt Harm And Heal
A Friend For Life
We know far more about ourselves than we are prepared to admit. Admission opens the way to change, change is often painful, and we would all prefer to avoid suffering. The fact remains that no-one knows us like we know us. In this case, however, knowledge is not enough. We need understanding. What is it … Continue reading A Friend For Life
All Things Must Change
Everything we do, say or think has consequences...and that's true whether we choose to deny it or not. One thing results in the next, one direction leads to another. Any attempt to freeze time and space is futile. Change happens minute by minute, hour by hour despite our often desperate attempts to delay or postpone … Continue reading All Things Must Change
Up, Down And Sideways
Expectation can often exceed result. What we want is not necessarily what we will get. It's rare that we plan for a loss but a negative outcome is always a possibility. In a lifetime we will experience many good things and we'll experience many bad things. There will be times when our spirits are lifted … Continue reading Up, Down And Sideways
Look, Listen and Learn
The gap separating fact from fiction is becoming increasingly blurred as technology transitions. It's becoming harder to believe what we can hear and more difficult to accept what we can see. Face value is no longer what we expect it to be. Those with specific agendas make the most noise and demand the lion's share … Continue reading Look, Listen and Learn
Enough To Be Tough
Wounds run deep. The hurt we have suffered can very much determine the direction we take. More significantly, though, the pain we carry impacts on the value we place on ourselves. While the way the world around us sees and assesses us has its impact both emotionally and psychologically, the most harmful critic all too … Continue reading Enough To Be Tough
Pieces Of Peace
We're taught the importance of acceptance and forgiveness...leaving the past in the past...the need to move forward...the simple mantra of getting on with getting on. And - at least at a surface level - we can appear to have all those things under control. The problem is that there is more to us than presentation … Continue reading Pieces Of Peace
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