We know far more about ourselves than we are prepared to admit. Admission opens the way to change, change is often painful, and we would all prefer to avoid suffering. The fact remains that no-one knows us like we know us. In this case, however, knowledge is not enough. We need understanding. What is it … Continue reading A Friend For Life
Tag: mental-health
Topping The Takers
It's not easy to accept that, somewhere out there, is a person who is plotting or planning to take advantage of us either emotionally, physically or spiritually. They may be nearby or they may be far away...but they seek to exploit us. They see something we have and they want it for themselves. They see … Continue reading Topping The Takers
All Things Must Change
Everything we do, say or think has consequences...and that's true whether we choose to deny it or not. One thing results in the next, one direction leads to another. Any attempt to freeze time and space is futile. Change happens minute by minute, hour by hour despite our often desperate attempts to delay or postpone … Continue reading All Things Must Change
Up, Down And Sideways
Expectation can often exceed result. What we want is not necessarily what we will get. It's rare that we plan for a loss but a negative outcome is always a possibility. In a lifetime we will experience many good things and we'll experience many bad things. There will be times when our spirits are lifted … Continue reading Up, Down And Sideways
Look, Listen and Learn
The gap separating fact from fiction is becoming increasingly blurred as technology transitions. It's becoming harder to believe what we can hear and more difficult to accept what we can see. Face value is no longer what we expect it to be. Those with specific agendas make the most noise and demand the lion's share … Continue reading Look, Listen and Learn
Enough To Be Tough
Wounds run deep. The hurt we have suffered can very much determine the direction we take. More significantly, though, the pain we carry impacts on the value we place on ourselves. While the way the world around us sees and assesses us has its impact both emotionally and psychologically, the most harmful critic all too … Continue reading Enough To Be Tough
Pieces Of Peace
We're taught the importance of acceptance and forgiveness...leaving the past in the past...the need to move forward...the simple mantra of getting on with getting on. And - at least at a surface level - we can appear to have all those things under control. The problem is that there is more to us than presentation … Continue reading Pieces Of Peace
What? Me? Where?
It's normal to occasionally feel that the space we are occupying at any given point in time is not the place we are meant to be. It's not unusual to experience what is know as imposter syndrome...to question ourselves and the life we are leading...to doubt our skills and abilities and the way we are … Continue reading What? Me? Where?
Anxiety Is For Keeps
We can either work to control our level of anxiety or step back and give it the power to take over our life. The one thing we are unable to do is to eliminate anxiety. We must accept the fact that there are things that will cause us to worry...and some of us worry more … Continue reading Anxiety Is For Keeps
Learn Before The Burn
The potential for job burnout looms large. The problem is that employer and employee expectations do not always align. The more we do, the more we can be expected to do. Quite often, though, that expectation is self-imposed. We are guilty of putting pressure on ourselves. Spending time and effort looking over our shoulder in … Continue reading Learn Before The Burn
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