There are at least two difficulties when it comes to the issue of planning. One is necessity and the second is the very real possibility of ultimate futility. The problem we face is that it's not possible to have one without the other. We are all aware of the fact that failing to plan is … Continue reading A Monumental Moment
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Seeing And Deceiving
The frustration of hearing and understanding instruction is on a different level to the angst that can be generated by the effort put into accepting and following instruction. The difficulty is that there can be both truth and lies in instruction. One person's truth is another person's misdirection. Quite often that misdirection can be both … Continue reading Seeing And Deceiving
Testing The Truth
Ignoring the truth is no way to disempower the truth. What is real and true will remain real and true despite the very best efforts of some to make it appear less than it is. When every effort to reframe it is dead and gone, truth will survive. We all have our ways of twisting … Continue reading Testing The Truth
The Challenge Of Choice
We are given many opportunities to challenge ourselves...our beliefs, our behaviours, our thinking and our perceptions. It's only by accepting those challenges that can hope to gain the information we need to make the changes necessary for our growth and development. The trap is that acceptance is not mandatory. We all have a choice. We … Continue reading The Challenge Of Choice
Halt Harm And Heal
When facing a crisis we often have the awkward and unsettling tendency to first consider the worst possible outcome. The bad takes precedence over the good...the dark over the light. In short, we abandon logic. Correct reasoning gets thrown to the wind. Fear leads to panic, panic to confusion and confusion to error. There is … Continue reading Halt Harm And Heal
Betwixt And Between
When it comes to the difference between mental wellness and mental illness there can be a great deal of confusion. The problem is that there are degrees of both states of mind. On any given day it can be a relatively simple matter to decide the category that best describes the way we are feeling. … Continue reading Betwixt And Between
A Friend For Life
We know far more about ourselves than we are prepared to admit. Admission opens the way to change, change is often painful, and we would all prefer to avoid suffering. The fact remains that no-one knows us like we know us. In this case, however, knowledge is not enough. We need understanding. What is it … Continue reading A Friend For Life
Topping The Takers
It's not easy to accept that, somewhere out there, is a person who is plotting or planning to take advantage of us either emotionally, physically or spiritually. They may be nearby or they may be far away...but they seek to exploit us. They see something we have and they want it for themselves. They see … Continue reading Topping The Takers
All Things Must Change
Everything we do, say or think has consequences...and that's true whether we choose to deny it or not. One thing results in the next, one direction leads to another. Any attempt to freeze time and space is futile. Change happens minute by minute, hour by hour despite our often desperate attempts to delay or postpone … Continue reading All Things Must Change
Up, Down And Sideways
Expectation can often exceed result. What we want is not necessarily what we will get. It's rare that we plan for a loss but a negative outcome is always a possibility. In a lifetime we will experience many good things and we'll experience many bad things. There will be times when our spirits are lifted … Continue reading Up, Down And Sideways
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