The way we think and the thoughts that we have are of far less importance than the way we feel. Thoughts are random...feelings can be controlled and directed. Feelings are very much about reaction and it's the way we respond to the thoughts that we have that will dictate the direction of our lives. There … Continue reading That Thinking Feeling
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Here, Now And Today
We draw strength, reassurance and confidence from the individuals around us. Unfortunately the opposite is also true. If we lack insight or vision, the company we keep can have an adverse effect on our wellbeing. It starts at a psychological level. In time, however, what we think and how we interpret that which we see … Continue reading Here, Now And Today
Correction Through Connection
Many people find the topic of mental wellbeing far too confrontational...and that attitude is potentially dangerous. Choosing to ignore or avoid the help that is available is choosing to accept a state of mind that is often less than it could be. Struggles can be eased...the psychological load that we carry can be lightened - … Continue reading Correction Through Connection
Proof Is In The Putting
For every truth there is a lie. For every argument there is a defense. For every wrong there is a right. Around every corner is a contradiction, a challenge to what we believe and how we think. Rarely is something that it appears to be at first glance. Confusion can be all-consuming and, when in … Continue reading Proof Is In The Putting
A Monumental Moment
There are at least two difficulties when it comes to the issue of planning. One is necessity and the second is the very real possibility of ultimate futility. The problem we face is that it's not possible to have one without the other. We are all aware of the fact that failing to plan is … Continue reading A Monumental Moment
A Friend For Life
We know far more about ourselves than we are prepared to admit. Admission opens the way to change, change is often painful, and we would all prefer to avoid suffering. The fact remains that no-one knows us like we know us. In this case, however, knowledge is not enough. We need understanding. What is it … Continue reading A Friend For Life
Topping The Takers
It's not easy to accept that, somewhere out there, is a person who is plotting or planning to take advantage of us either emotionally, physically or spiritually. They may be nearby or they may be far away...but they seek to exploit us. They see something we have and they want it for themselves. They see … Continue reading Topping The Takers
All Things Must Change
Everything we do, say or think has consequences...and that's true whether we choose to deny it or not. One thing results in the next, one direction leads to another. Any attempt to freeze time and space is futile. Change happens minute by minute, hour by hour despite our often desperate attempts to delay or postpone … Continue reading All Things Must Change
Up, Down And Sideways
Expectation can often exceed result. What we want is not necessarily what we will get. It's rare that we plan for a loss but a negative outcome is always a possibility. In a lifetime we will experience many good things and we'll experience many bad things. There will be times when our spirits are lifted … Continue reading Up, Down And Sideways
Enough To Be Tough
Wounds run deep. The hurt we have suffered can very much determine the direction we take. More significantly, though, the pain we carry impacts on the value we place on ourselves. While the way the world around us sees and assesses us has its impact both emotionally and psychologically, the most harmful critic all too … Continue reading Enough To Be Tough
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