Fear, frustration and disappointment can all be the result of impressions of inadequacy. There are so many times when we feel that our best is simply not enough...when everything we have is everything we give and yet it falls short of an expected or imagined target. Life is hard but far too much of our … Continue reading Getting To Know Me →

Who we are today is the sum total of what we did with all of our yesterdays. The person we are is a person of our own making. At this very point in time it's not possible to be another version of us. We are individual. We are unique. We are who we are. We … Continue reading Cashing In On Change →

We are all damaged. We all have worries. We all have wounds. Every one of us has a personal grief case into which we pack those thoughts and concerns that we find too challenging to confront or difficult to resolve. The weight varies and shifts as we make our way through life but the burden … Continue reading The Comfort Of Coping →

Not everything we see or hear will make complete sense to us at the point and time of encounter. There can be more confusion than clarity; more upset than understanding. The passage of time will make some things clearer but there will always be both concepts and characters that we will never fully understand. That … Continue reading Accepting The Who Within →

There are some people who spend too much time looking back to their past...reliving the things they are unable to change...regretting actions and inactions...living a life of "what ifs". Others put far too much energy and time into anticipating the future...dreading what may or may not happen...fearful of the unknown. It's important to remind ourselves … Continue reading Now Is The Moment →

Anxiety is generated by uncertainty. Fear of the unknown promotes doubt and insecurity. What we don't know can hurt us...but only if we allow it to be so. An important part of the survival process is knowing the difference between what we need and what we want. That knowledge helps dictate the effort we will … Continue reading The Certainty Of Uncertainty →

We spend our entire existence being told what is expected of us...how we are to behave...where the boundaries lie...what is acceptable and what is unacceptable...what we can do and what we are forbidden from doing. While we jealously guard our independence, we understand that it is necessary to hand responsibility for much of the decision-making … Continue reading Thoughts Thought Through →

Considered omission can be every bit as damaging as willful commission when it comes to matters of the mind. The bits we choose to leave out can be as psychologically damaging as the bits we deliberately include. While it's true that - in the final analysis - what is said and done is far more … Continue reading Omit, Commit or Submit →

Adversity feeds stress and stress fuels anxiety. Anxiety - left unchecked - can confuse and disorientate. Too often it's little more than a thin line that separates control from collapse. On any one single day we can find ourselves facing either clarity or calamity and we must decide whether we will allow ourselves to cross … Continue reading The Thin Line Of Separation →

Fear and caution are linked. But so too are fear and panic. Fear urges us to consider risk. It prompts us to think about consequence and possibility. It helps us protect ourselves. Fear is the salt in our psychological diet...a little is necessary but too much can be damaging. Too much fear can result in … Continue reading The Fear Of Self →