All too often the place we are at is not the place we want to be. It's at those times that it is important to remind ourselves of where we were and the lessons we have learned in making the journey from there to here. Right now, this very minute, is the time that counts. … Continue reading The Right Kind Of Kind →

Living in the real world is not easy. And yet it is the real world that surrounds us and demands our presence. The real world is not something of our own creation. It is the way it is, not the way we would imagine it to be. The real world is something beyond our control. … Continue reading The Wont Of Want →

Of all the guilts we carry, the guilt of happiness is without doubt the most self destructive. It has strong links with the misconception that those around us carry with them the responsibility for our own, individual happiness. And then there is the concern that we have no right to be happy when there is … Continue reading The Guilt Of Happiness →

Of all the emotions, anger is arguably the most dangerous. Whether internalised or externalised it can be a destructive force. And yet anger sits there inside us all in company with sadness and happiness, a building block to empower us to build a personality. It's natural to experience feelings of sadness and happiness. It's also … Continue reading The Onus Of Anger →

The vast chasm between the life we have and the life we live is the place where many of us get lost. We are given the former but decide the latter - one free the other earned. That we exist is irrefutable and with that existence comes immeasurable potential as well as the heavy weight … Continue reading To Know Is To Grow →

Mental health and well being has far more to do with the relationship we have with ourselves than the relationships we have with others and that can be as difficult to understand as it is to accept. Little wonder then that we can spend an inordinate amount of time looking for others to blame when … Continue reading Knowing And Growing →

In times of change and challenge we are encouraged to be resilient...to bounce back to our pre-existing state of mind after enduring the torment of circumstances and situations so often beyond our control. Resilient people are seen as tough and steadfast, examples to us all. It's a quality many lack but covet. The reality is … Continue reading The Big Bounce Back →

The very best of efforts can sometimes produce the least desirable results. There are many times when we simply fail to get what we want. The goal is impossible to reach if circumstances move the goalposts mid-way through the exercise. There is nothing quite as frustrating as reaching a predetermined end to discover that the … Continue reading Hope Springs Internal →

Mental well-being is dependent on a regular balance between the head, the heart and the gut. The gut is all about snap reactions, the head takes care of rationality and commonsense while emotions come from the heart. Rarely is the desired balance more upset and challenged than when a loved one dies. It's at those … Continue reading Love, Loss And Life →

We all have a tendency to hear what we want to hear and disregard the rest. There are things we are prepared to accept and others we will oppose. At the heart of it sits our individual appetite for truth and the undeniable reality that truth is often painful. That appetite varies according to time … Continue reading Possible, probable, proven →