Life is filled with memorable moments and others best forgotten. The difference in people is the way we choose to perceive the life we are living. Some see their pain as the mainstay and pleasure as a distraction from it. Others come from a positive viewpoint and accept any negativity as a inevitable trade-off. There … Continue reading The Sensibility of Self →

Personal growth involves potential and commitment. The former is all to do with environmental conditions - situations and circumstances often beyond our control. But the latter is about the person we are and the effort we make. So much of the emotional pain we experience has our own lack of understanding of the who that … Continue reading The Reflection Reflex →

For far too many of us the two things that stand between a problem and its solution are recognition and admission. We put a lot of time and effort into packing problems into our personal grief case and making sure the lid is sealed. We want to believe that out of sight is out of … Continue reading Help Is At Hand →

Throughout anyone's life there are any number of missed opportunities...chances gone begging, circumstances sidestepped, offers ignored. What we experience or fail to experience has to as much to do with time as it has to do with place. It's only when those two factors converge and combine with curiosity that opportunities are embraced. And while … Continue reading The Self On The Shelf →

Change is rarely easy. Moving from one state of mind or one place of being to another can dredge up fears and uncertainties we had previously not realised existed or refused to accept. Enforced change is one thing, chosen change another thing entirely. But without change there can be no growth. Just as the world … Continue reading Change Of Place →

Everything we do, say and think has an impact. At any given time, in any given place someone is taking note of the person we are seen to be. The ripple effect of our being should never be underestimated or undervalued. But the real impact of our actions, words and thoughts is on ourselves. We … Continue reading The We Within →

It's not only in the dictionary that we find a wide gap between age and wisdom. The same can be said for a lived life. While we would hope that there is more than a little truth in the belief that years added equates to improvements in understanding, a boost in acceptance and a more … Continue reading The Setting Of Wisdom →

We all seek approval. We have a need to know that we are right. But we are human. There are many times when we are wrong. It's at those times that it's important to know the difference between approval and support. It can often be far more difficult to find someone who stands by us … Continue reading Know Thine Frenemy →

There is no such thing as a charmed life. No-one makes the journey through from start to finish unscathed. Things that happen to us leave us battered. Things that happen through us leave us shattered. We are flawed beings living in a flawed world. We expect things of other people and we are disappointed when … Continue reading Our Life, Our Story →

When it comes to the troublesome issue of mental anguish there are two distinct groups - those who don't want to tell and those who don't want to hear. Both groups suffer. The former from a lack of expression, the latter from a lack of empathy. Everyone has a story to tell but not everyone … Continue reading Tell And Be Told →