Happiness lies within. It's there inside us all. We own our own happiness. It's our responsibility to foster and maintain all the associated positive emotions including joy, contentment and gratitude. The problem is that situations and circumstances can result in us losing our connection to happiness. It's at those times that we look to others … Continue reading Happy Is As Happy Does
Taking Chances With Answers
Answers are often harder to accept than they are to find. And yet we keep demanding them. We have a need to know why, what and how. Often, though, that need can extend beyond natural curiosity to self-destruction. There is a tendency to analyse beyond the point of reason. It's when a thought becomes an … Continue reading Taking Chances With Answers
Our Space, Our Place
We all have the need to be seen and we all have the desire to be heard. We want our existence to be acknowledged. As unique individuals we all occupy a space. It's our space and will always be so. At various times in our lives we can invite people to share our space but … Continue reading Our Space, Our Place
Head, Heart And Harmony
Emotions are the link between head and heart...between rational thinking and romantic reaction. Small wonder then that our emotional state can occasionally be somewhat erratic. There's a vast gap between knowing and feeling. Reality and imagination sit poles apart. And yet we are often tempted to ignore the evident truth in favour of the promise … Continue reading Head, Heart And Harmony
The Value Of Being
So much self-inflicted anxiety stems from the mind-based battle between worth and value. How we see ourselves is our self-worth; how the world sees us is our self-value. Rarely do the two intersect and form a comfortable and lasting relationship. Too much time is spent on self-reflection which spins out into self-criticism. We become our … Continue reading The Value Of Being
Never Too Late
It is what it is because it was what it was. That does not mean, however, that it must be what it will be. Uncertainty and unpredictability should never be used as excuses. We can change. We can change what we think. We can change who we are. We can swap inevitability for adventure. Repetition … Continue reading Never Too Late
The Choice Of Change
While we must all accept the reality of consequence, there is little we can do but wait for the future to arrive. What's behind was, what's with us is, and what lies ahead is shrouded in mystery, conjecture and - all too often - fear. There is a real danger in reacting to something that … Continue reading The Choice Of Change
A Friend In Deed
When desire exceeds satisfaction we can find ourselves in troubled waters. Focusing on what we want at the expense of appreciating what we have results in disappointment and can lead to depression. Wants are linked to the future. Reality rests with haves. Contentment is another issue altogether. Contentment suggests passivity...a lack of drive and vision. … Continue reading A Friend In Deed
The Comfort In Connection
There are times when privacy is preferred over connection...times when we favour our own company...times when we feel the need to close the door to the outside world. It's when some time becomes all time that we must accept that we have lost perspective and we are causing damage to our mental wellbeing. The key … Continue reading The Comfort In Connection
Goodbyes And Badbyes
The subtle difference between goodbyes and farewells is the casual nature of the former as opposed to the finality of the latter. Where both point to an ending, one demands far greater conviction and understanding than the other. Life is filled with conclusions and a conclusion taken to its logical completion can be a termination. … Continue reading Goodbyes And Badbyes