The frustration of hearing and understanding instruction is on a different level to the angst that can be generated by the effort put into accepting and following instruction. The difficulty is that there can be both truth and lies in instruction. One person's truth is another person's misdirection. Quite often that misdirection can be both … Continue reading Seeing And Deceiving
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Testing The Truth
Ignoring the truth is no way to disempower the truth. What is real and true will remain real and true despite the very best efforts of some to make it appear less than it is. When every effort to reframe it is dead and gone, truth will survive. We all have our ways of twisting … Continue reading Testing The Truth
The Challenge Of Choice
We are given many opportunities to challenge ourselves...our beliefs, our behaviours, our thinking and our perceptions. It's only by accepting those challenges that can hope to gain the information we need to make the changes necessary for our growth and development. The trap is that acceptance is not mandatory. We all have a choice. We … Continue reading The Challenge Of Choice
Halt Harm And Heal
When facing a crisis we often have the awkward and unsettling tendency to first consider the worst possible outcome. The bad takes precedence over the good...the dark over the light. In short, we abandon logic. Correct reasoning gets thrown to the wind. Fear leads to panic, panic to confusion and confusion to error. There is … Continue reading Halt Harm And Heal
See Self Seesaw
Self-care can sometimes feel self-indulgent. Responsibilities can overwhelm. We can lose sight of the fact that we need time to restock, restore and recharge. So much to do and so little time. All too often we can push ourselves to the point of emotional exhaustion. So focused are we on the wants and needs of … Continue reading See Self Seesaw
A Friend In Need
Commonsense and caution should be two essential prerequisites in the decision-making process. Care and consideration must also be included. We want the decision we make to be the right one at the right time giving us a reasonable assurance of the best possible outcome. But then the entire process can be derailed by self-doubt. Over-thinking … Continue reading A Friend In Need
Betwixt And Between
When it comes to the difference between mental wellness and mental illness there can be a great deal of confusion. The problem is that there are degrees of both states of mind. On any given day it can be a relatively simple matter to decide the category that best describes the way we are feeling. … Continue reading Betwixt And Between
Look, Listen And Learn
In a world where instant gratification is so readily achievable we run the risk of losing the appreciation and understanding that comes with patience. Patience lies within the gap of idea and action. It's that buffer that offers us the chance to reconsider. What can seem like a good idea at the time can be … Continue reading Look, Listen And Learn
Writ, Wrote, Right
Calculated risk is a survival tactic. It's a risk that precedes change...both positive and negative change. We will not always get it right. There will be times when the wrong choice is made. At that point we must be prepared to live with the consequences. We have to come to an understanding of the direction … Continue reading Writ, Wrote, Right
Spoken And Awoken
It's not difficult to see that - in so many circumstances - silence can be more damaging than verbalised disagreement. Words can quite easily be used as weapons aimed to upset and disorientate their target. But the lack of words means the conflict remains internalised, eroding both the confidence and the mental wellbeing of the … Continue reading Spoken And Awoken
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