It's not only in the dictionary that we find a wide gap between age and wisdom. The same can be said for a lived life. While we would hope that there is more than a little truth in the belief that years added equates to improvements in understanding, a boost in acceptance and a more … Continue reading The Setting Of Wisdom →

We all seek approval. We have a need to know that we are right. But we are human. There are many times when we are wrong. It's at those times that it's important to know the difference between approval and support. It can often be far more difficult to find someone who stands by us … Continue reading Know Thine Frenemy →

There is no such thing as a charmed life. No-one makes the journey through from start to finish unscathed. Things that happen to us leave us battered. Things that happen through us leave us shattered. We are flawed beings living in a flawed world. We expect things of other people and we are disappointed when … Continue reading Our Life, Our Story →

When it comes to the troublesome issue of mental anguish there are two distinct groups - those who don't want to tell and those who don't want to hear. Both groups suffer. The former from a lack of expression, the latter from a lack of empathy. Everyone has a story to tell but not everyone … Continue reading Tell And Be Told →

All too often the place we are at is not the place we want to be. It's at those times that it is important to remind ourselves of where we were and the lessons we have learned in making the journey from there to here. Right now, this very minute, is the time that counts. … Continue reading The Right Kind Of Kind →

Living in the real world is not easy. And yet it is the real world that surrounds us and demands our presence. The real world is not something of our own creation. It is the way it is, not the way we would imagine it to be. The real world is something beyond our control. … Continue reading The Wont Of Want →

Of all the guilts we carry, the guilt of happiness is without doubt the most self destructive. It has strong links with the misconception that those around us carry with them the responsibility for our own, individual happiness. And then there is the concern that we have no right to be happy when there is … Continue reading The Guilt Of Happiness →

Of all the emotions, anger is arguably the most dangerous. Whether internalised or externalised it can be a destructive force. And yet anger sits there inside us all in company with sadness and happiness, a building block to empower us to build a personality. It's natural to experience feelings of sadness and happiness. It's also … Continue reading The Onus Of Anger →

The vast chasm between the life we have and the life we live is the place where many of us get lost. We are given the former but decide the latter - one free the other earned. That we exist is irrefutable and with that existence comes immeasurable potential as well as the heavy weight … Continue reading To Know Is To Grow →

Mental health and well being has far more to do with the relationship we have with ourselves than the relationships we have with others and that can be as difficult to understand as it is to accept. Little wonder then that we can spend an inordinate amount of time looking for others to blame when … Continue reading Knowing And Growing →