While we must all accept the reality of consequence, there is little we can do but wait for the future to arrive. What's behind was, what's with us is, and what lies ahead is shrouded in mystery, conjecture and - all too often - fear. There is a real danger in reacting to something that … Continue reading The Choice Of Change →

When desire exceeds satisfaction we can find ourselves in troubled waters. Focusing on what we want at the expense of appreciating what we have results in disappointment and can lead to depression. Wants are linked to the future. Reality rests with haves. Contentment is another issue altogether. Contentment suggests passivity...a lack of drive and vision. … Continue reading A Friend In Deed →

There are times when privacy is preferred over connection...times when we favour our own company...times when we feel the need to close the door to the outside world. It's when some time becomes all time that we must accept that we have lost perspective and we are causing damage to our mental wellbeing. The key … Continue reading The Comfort In Connection →

The subtle difference between goodbyes and farewells is the casual nature of the former as opposed to the finality of the latter. Where both point to an ending, one demands far greater conviction and understanding than the other. Life is filled with conclusions and a conclusion taken to its logical completion can be a termination. … Continue reading Goodbyes And Badbyes →

As much as we would all like to believe that all things are possible life teaches us that is simply not so. Beyond the reach of the sincerest of hopes and outside the realm of the miraculous lies the sure knowledge that some things will never come to pass. Wanting something is not enough. Needing … Continue reading The Point Of Possibility →

As much as most people prefer to sidestep the issue of mortality it remains as the great inescapable and unavoidable. But it's not the fact that our time will come to an end that should consume our thoughts and actions, it should be all about the time that we have. Life should be focused on … Continue reading Maximise The Moment →

Disappointment left unexplored and unresolved can be dangerous. Repeated disappointment can result in depression. What was once a relatively minor challenge can assume extreme proportions. There are expectations attached to almost everything we say and everything we do. Most people live their life with purpose. When we live with purpose we have every reason to … Continue reading The Standards Of Self →

When it comes to the matters of both emotional and psychological wellbeing, there is no shortage of advice. Credentialed experts and well-meaning friends and family all have an opinion. We are told what it is that we should be feeling in our heads and our hearts, how long that feeling can be expected to last … Continue reading Listen, Learn, Love →

Daily life is demanding. We are surrounded by people who have needs. Many of those are demanding that their needs are met. Employers want more, family members want more, partners want more. And they all want more of us...our time and our emotional resources. Little wonder then that we can feel both exhausted and empty … Continue reading Make Time To Take Time →

When it comes to thoughts and emotions we have one of two choices...control them or allow them to control us. Giving in to what we think and feel is easy and all too often regretted. Decisions made in the heat of the moment whether that heat is generated by passion or anger can have consequences … Continue reading More Harm Than Charm →