We can be a poor judge of our own emotional wellbeing. How we see ourselves can be clouded by our history, the challenges we face today and our concerns for the future. All too often we expect more of ourselves than those around us expect...and that can be particularly true in the workplace. Over-thinking generated … Continue reading The Wits’ End Audit →

There are two inescapable facts when it comes to the touchy issue of self care. The first is that it's essential for mental and physical wellbeing. The clue to the second is in the title. It's all about self...doing for yourself those things that no-one else can do. Why call it a "touchy issue"?...because too … Continue reading Within Or Without →

Age and wisdom do not necessarily go hand-in-hand. An accumulation of years is not always accompanied by an accumulation of knowledge. What we know will never be all that we can know. There is more. There will always be more. But while it's important to stay open to new ideas it's just as important not … Continue reading The Wanting Of Wisdom →

When we fail to come to terms with our past we can rob ourselves of the enjoyment of the present and cloud our future. To get to today we have had many yesterdays and not all of those yesterdays were perfect. The problem is that all too often we carry the pain and the confusion … Continue reading Pain Past and Present →

The importance of communication cannot be overstated. We need to talk. We need to express our feelings. We are driven to give voice to the conversations and arguments that take place inside our heads. It's in putting our thoughts into words that we can start to make some sense of them. Being heard is one … Continue reading The Natter That Matters →

It's true that confession is good for the soul. It can be therapeutic to face our fears, failings and short-comings. But confession alone is not enough. To be most effective it must be followed by a conscious effort to change. The process involves telling someone else about that which is troubling us. Often, though, the … Continue reading Getting To Know Me →

Confusion, suffering and pain occupies the vast expanse of no man's land that lies between the two extremes of self-loathing and self-loving. Depending on what is happening within us and around us it can take various degrees of concerted effort to avoid the two extremes and find a comfortable place to settle. There's a problem … Continue reading Contentment Or Resentment →

Everyone has a story to tell...a story of who we were, who we are and who we hope to become. Each story is as unique as its teller and each story has elements of defeat, victory, hope and despair. But even though the story is ours and ours alone some people choose not to tell … Continue reading A Tale To Tell →

It can often be far easier to forgive someone else than it is to forgive ourselves. Past errors or transgressions may have long been forgotten by everyone but the person we know ourself to be. We pack the memory, the pain and the shame into our personal grief case and continue to carry it with … Continue reading The Deal With Forgiveness →

There is much we can do. Much we can achieve. But there is also much which we are unable to do...situations, circumstances and individuals over which we have no control. There are things that will never change despite our very best efforts. Despite that here is both satisfaction and frustration in wishing and hoping. Optimism … Continue reading Begin With The Within →