Sometimes the most confusing and conflicting emotion associated with loving someone is not liking them. But there are often people who have a place in our heart but who can't have a place in our lives. The result is emotional anguish. We can feel tormented and confused when we are faced with situations and individuals … Continue reading Loving And Liking →

When it comes to the matter of keeping busy, there are those who hold to the big bite theory. They maintain that the way to be successful is to bite off as much as possible from everything that appears to be both necessary and desirable...and then chew furiously. The premise is that the situation will … Continue reading The Big Bite Theory →

Boundaries are all about protection...the preservation of general wellbeing...good physical and mental health. We're surrounded by boundaries in the guise of things like rules, laws and regulations...clear definitions of what's expected of us...defined borders around acceptable and permissible behaviour. When it comes to being a functional member of society, we know what's expected. We're entitled … Continue reading Out Of Boundaries →

We are who we choose to be. While we are the sum of all our parts and all our experiences, the person we are today is the person we have decided to be. The responsibility is entirely personal. We can be pleasant and agreeable, co-operative and happy or we can embrace and project attitudes that … Continue reading Start With A Smile →

There's a very good chance that what we choose to do today - and even what we choose to think today - could determine the course of our life for the foreseeable future. And that's a daunting prospect. If you accept the premise that we have the ability to mould our own destiny, then it makes good sense … Continue reading Opportunity And Promise →

One of the most difficult concepts that we all must face is that of the inevitability of disappointment. No-one wants to grapple with a promise that lacks substance; an unmet expectation; an assurance that isn't followed through. And yet we know we must. Grudging acceptance is all well and good and may be the best … Continue reading Happy And Complete →

The one thing most of us have in common is the desire to be heard. Another thing many of us have in common is the frustration that comes from believing that we're not being heard. Relationships founder because we lose the subtle and important art of communication. Either through neglect or ignorance we stop hearing what … Continue reading Being Seen And Heard →

No matter how grim we perceive our circumstances to be, there's always something for which to be thankful. In fact an attitude of gratitude could be one of the most overlooked of survival tools. It's not what life hands to us that matters, it's what we do with what we have. Every one is an … Continue reading Bogged Or Buoyed →

As creatures of habit there are few among us who don't struggle with the concept of change. But, without change, there can be no growth and no improvement. Stagnation is not a desirable state of being. There are many opportunities in any given week to accept change...to make the conscious decision to choose an alternative...to decide … Continue reading Tomorrow Starts Today →

Too many people are looking for a quick fix. They want one-word, snap solutions. They demand answers in an instant. They want relationship and financial problems resolved and they want it done in the shortest time possible with the very least effort. Those looking for something for nothing continually set themselves up for disappointment. Worse still they … Continue reading There Are No Quick Fixes →