Many people find the topic of mental wellbeing far too confrontational...and that attitude is potentially dangerous. Choosing to ignore or avoid the help that is available is choosing to accept a state of mind that is often less than it could be. Struggles can be eased...the psychological load that we carry can be lightened - … Continue reading Correction Through Connection
Author: garybentleycounselling
After 40 years in the media, several years in business and a total of 37 years married life, I am now a fulltime and qualified counsellor with a passion to help individuals become the best person they can be.
Proof Is In The Putting
For every truth there is a lie. For every argument there is a defense. For every wrong there is a right. Around every corner is a contradiction, a challenge to what we believe and how we think. Rarely is something that it appears to be at first glance. Confusion can be all-consuming and, when in … Continue reading Proof Is In The Putting
The Challenge Of Balance
Living life involves the ongoing effort of looking for the balance between action and reaction. Both are needed. Without action there can be no progress, no development and little in the way of realistic expectation. Without reaction there is no way of making sense of our situation and deciding if it's the place we are … Continue reading The Challenge Of Balance
The Great Decide
We make decisions every day. Some are important while others are so minor they require little thought. The refusal to decide is acceptance of the mistaken belief that there will be no change. Deliberate and selective ignorance is no protection. Whatever is may not simply continue to be by virtue of the fact that we … Continue reading The Great Decide
Me, Myself, Eye To Eye
It's true that knowledge is power. The more we know, the stronger we can be. But knowledge is no preventative when it comes to mistakes. We can know, but still make the wrong decision. We can repeat past errors. We can be well aware of all the options and make the wrong choice. It's only … Continue reading Me, Myself, Eye To Eye
The Time Is Now
Finding the strength, determination and focus to face new challenges can be far from easy. The alternative is deliberate ignorance and refusal. One is to fly, the other to falter. The problem is that every-day existence brings with it new challenges and a response is demanded. We can anticipate but preparation can be sketchy, unreliable … Continue reading The Time Is Now
Getting Starts With Giving
Love and peace is far more than a forgotten mantra from a generation now lost in the mists of time. We spend our life seeking one and craving the other in a bid to make our existence as comfortable and content as it can be. In the meantime we scramble to maintain and retain whatever … Continue reading Getting Starts With Giving
Ready For Anything
The unpredictable lies in wait. Sooner or later the unexpected will happen. It can bring with it change in circumstance, direction or attitude. What we are, where we are and who we are can be altered in a heartbeat leaving us facing a new reality. Our changed way of being may be temporary or permanent … Continue reading Ready For Anything
Sinking By Thinking
There are many times when what we expect or desire are well beyond the realms of possibility. The achievable may be believable but remains unattainable. Recognition of that fact, however, is not permission to stifle our imagination. To do so would be to restrict our thoughts and emotions. We need to think and we need … Continue reading Sinking By Thinking
Linking Brinking Thinking
We all need a plan...an idea...an expectation...a hope. Implementation of a plan is the way we find ourselves moving from where we are to where we want to be. It's a link between the here and now and the then and there. Some people make their plan in 12-month grabs and then spend their time, … Continue reading Linking Brinking Thinking