While it's always advisable to take the time to weigh up a situation before making a decision, too much thinking can be a trap. It's altogether possible to overthink, over-analyse and fall into error. Reasonable can be turned into unreasonable if we start to doubt ourselves. There are those who live their lives in a … Continue reading Change Starts Now →

Fear is an emotional response to a circumstance or set of circumstances and it falls within a spectrum that ranges from mild discomfort to outright terror. Everyone has experienced fear. Some people live with it. Being afraid is linked with being cautious and both have a close connection to survival. There are dangers which should be avoided. Fear … Continue reading Freedom From Fear →

The most disappointing thing about good advice is that so much of it is ignored. As individuals we are determined to push forwards with our own agendas and plans even when our direction and attitude is clearly questionable. Good advice comes value-added when the source is someone who has experience...a person who has felt both … Continue reading Mistakes Made In Haste →

There can be a considerable void between theory and practice. Knowledge and action can sometimes make strange and unfamiliar bedfellows. We can be absolutely sure about what needs to be done in a particular circumstance but just as resolute in our determination not to do it. We can be held back by fear or a lack … Continue reading A Life Lived Learning →

The widespread expectation that certain emotions should be supressed can, if embraced, result in psychological damage. That we should pretend to be something we're not can be exhausting, confusing and ultimately self-defeating. It's important that we truly experience the things we are feeling. It's vital that we should own our feelings in full recognition of the reality that what we … Continue reading The Same But Different →

Eventually it's necessary to accept that not everyone we encounter is kind and well-intentioned. In fact it's rare to find a relationship that is pain free. We spend our lives seeking emotional connections.  We are driven by the need to love and be loved. We have a need to be part of a bigger picture. … Continue reading Expect Little, Give A Lot →

The demands of everyday living require that we keep focused and keep busy. Quite often the pace at which we live becomes frenetic. And that's all well and good. We all need a level of stress to function at our best. The danger is that stress can become unmanageable...that it can become exaggerated to the … Continue reading Talking It Out →

There are times when the greatest challenges we face are our own thoughts. We battle with what we know to be common sense and realism replacing it with impossible and unrealistic scenarios. The way things are is not always the way we would want them to be. But creating and then accepting an alternative reality can … Continue reading Knowing You, Knowing Me →

Many people work in stressful jobs. In fact there are very few jobs that come free of stress. There are some people of a different temperament who have a tendency to make their jobs more stressful than they need be. The result, however, is the same. People under pressure. When the paths of people under pressure cross there can … Continue reading Towards A Little Less Stress →

Sometimes the answers to our questions don't come fast enough. Often we're left troubled and confused. The "quick fix'' we want fails to appear. The only certainty is that there are always more questions than there are answers...at least in the short term. Given time,  the answers will come. If the answers fail to eventuate then … Continue reading Make Time To Take Time →