We all have something to say. We have opinions...attitudes that are expressed by the words we choose and the emotion we put into delivering them. Some are reluctant to express their opinions...to verbalise their thoughts. That reluctance could be confidence related. Or it could be because past attempts to express individuality have been met with … Continue reading Listen, Hear And Learn →

It's in that gap between expectation and realisation that we encounter disappointment. The script we had written in our own heads is all too rarely adhered to in the real world. What we want is not always what we get. But what we get is what we have to work with. The spiritual and emotional deflation … Continue reading The Inevitability of Disappointment →

All of us have a past. It's everything that happened then that has led us to our present. We are who we are now because we were who we were then. Past experiences - both good and bad - are undeniably part of the person we have become. It's not possible to rewrite history. It is, … Continue reading Making The Choice To Change →

The vast gap that exists between confrontation and avoidance is the space most of us choose to occupy when it comes to the often thorny issue of family relationships. The problem with extremes is that they can be damaging. Confrontation rarely results in compromise. The usual result is that there's a winner and there's a … Continue reading A Commitment To Change →

It can be altogether too easy to lose sight of the fact that life is not a dress rehearsal. We need regular reminders. Life itself gives us wake-up calls - incidents and occurrences that bring us face--to-face with the truth of our own mortality. Accepting the inevitability of death is not the biggest challenge. Coming … Continue reading No Dress Rehearsal →

Knowing truth is one thing...accepting it is something else entirely. Truth is coloured by opinion, attitude, experience and knowledge. That makes it malleable. One person's interpretation of that which is true can be at odds with the interpretation of another. We can alter the truth to suit our convenience or our situation. At the heart … Continue reading Hiding From The Truth →

Everyone struggles with the issue of forgiveness. But while it's difficult to show clemency towards those who have wronged us, the greater battle is the one we fight forgiving ourselves. Excusing the failings of others is something that can be done and dismissed. Their wrong-doing is their responsibility...our reaction to that wrong-doing is as far … Continue reading The Path To Forgiveness →

One of our great failings as individuals is the tendency to talk a lot but to say very little. Words are both cheap and disposable. We use them as a disguise and as a shield. We use them as weapons. So much of what we say is fuelled by uncertainty and fear. We hide behind … Continue reading It’s Only Words… →

Each and every one of us has an emotional tipping point...that place beyond which reason and sensibility are subsumed by the irrational and the illogical...that point where the person we know and understand ourselves to be becomes the stranger we are reluctant to admit to being. While we may prefer to be a Dr Jekyll … Continue reading Pondering The Tipping Point →

The most effective way to make the world a better place is to put effort into being a better person. It's not possible to reach the point of ultimate perfection. There will always be room for improvement. We all live and function within a circle of influence. There are people watching what we do...listening to … Continue reading Now Is The Time →