That we are is obvious. The greater struggle lies in understanding why we are. A major stressor in the lives of many is the pursuit of a reason for being. We are here. It is now. We are able to unpack the reasons for being in this particular place at this particular point in time. … Continue reading A Word To The Whys →

Knowing who we are is far less about self-discovery than it is about self-construction. The who that we are is more connected with the who we allow ourselves to be than the who we believe that we should be. And we are responsible for the who that we have allowed ourselves to become. Our who is … Continue reading Knowing Who’s Who →

It's important to plan for the future. It makes sense to decide on a direction or a destination and work towards it.  There's nothing wrong with the conviction that there are better, more productive and happier days ahead. Potential can be forged by positivity. Tomorrow awaits. Ignoring that creates unnecessary confusion and uncertainty. But despite our best … Continue reading No Time Like The Present →

Individuals generally struggle with the key elements of need and expectation...and they carry those elements into relationships. What one person wants is a conglomerate of their life's experiences both good and bad. We are what we are because of what we have been. What we will become is entirely dependant on what we decide to … Continue reading The Factor Of Fracture →

So much of life is about disappointment. It's about unmet expectations, shattered dreams, plans that go awry, hopes and expectations that are never realised. Importantly, though, it's about what to do when confronted by the reality that is the result of situation and circumstance rather than imagination and fantasy. While truth is not only stranger than fiction it … Continue reading The Intrusion Of Confusion →

Action is preceded by motivation. There's a reason for doing the things we do. A common problem however is that there are times when we neglect or refuse to take the time to examine our motivation before responding to a situation.  And it's that gap between thought and action which can be a major stressor in … Continue reading Operation Motivation →

Not every decision we make will be the right decision. Not every choice will be the correct one. A gut reaction can be the wrong reaction. A carefully thought out and planned move can have a result that falls well short of expectation...or misses the mark completely. We can be confused by emotions. We can … Continue reading A Work In Progress →

There's opportunity in every day...a time or times when a set of circumstances converge presenting the chance to take action...an invitation to do rather than simply to be. As such an invitation insists on a decision. Acceptance or ignorance; to embrace or reject...the choice is there for the individual to make. It's important to be open to opportunity...to … Continue reading Opportunity Is Knocking →

As members of an over-stimulated, self-centred and demanding society where focus and concentration are becoming increasingly difficult, it can be all but impossible to plan to do nothing. And yet doing nothing can often be more important than continuously doing something. We all need to make the time to step back, take a breath and work on … Continue reading Planning To Do Nothing →

Discretion is poorly understood and all too infrequently practiced. What was once a building block and statement of character,  stability and direction has now become little more than a vague concept. The problem lies with those who would convince us all that we must be categorised...that it's necessary to define parameters and the spectrum of behaviours … Continue reading At Our Own Discretion →