There's a danger in consistently trying to go above and beyond. When we continue to exceed reasonable physical and mental limits we run the risk of burning out. But then there's little but disappointment and frustration in not trying at all. The best place to be is between the two extremes. Finding that sweet spot … Continue reading Listen And Learn
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The Problematic Past
The past can be seen as either a series of milestones or a collection of millstones. The milestones point the way forward while the millstones hold us back. Living our best life means finding the balance between the two. It's impossible to be without having been but, all too often, we allow what was to … Continue reading The Problematic Past
Comfort In Company
There will be times when the world demands more than we believe we have to give. It's when we are overwhelmed that we can be at our most vulnerable. Our situation can be compounded by the simple fact that stress can impair our judgement and fear can cloud our commonsense. Decisions made and actions taken … Continue reading Comfort In Company
The Responsibility Of Self
For many of us, the sound of silence is deafening and it's never louder than when we are alone. Even if there is no noise around us there will always be noise within us. It's possible to shut out the world or to feel we have been shut out by the world but we can … Continue reading The Responsibility Of Self
The Hour Is Ours
Life is lived at a frenetic pace...and we pay a price for that. Change is all around us and that can be confusing. Our physical health suffers. Our mental health suffers. It's easy to lose sight of the fact that both the physical and the mental are linked; that, ideally, body and mind work together. … Continue reading The Hour Is Ours
The Key To Living
The way forward is not always easy. The prospect of stepping into the unknown can trigger a wide range of emotions. As a general rule we are far more content with what we know than with what we anticipate. But a life well lived is a life which embraces change. Every day should be seen … Continue reading The Key To Living
Believe In Belief
It's generally understood that everyone has their limit...their breaking point...that moment in time when coping mechanisms fail and the grip on sanity slips. But there's a gap between understanding and reality. It's in that gap that most of us spend most of our time. The survival instinct is strong. The reality is that most people … Continue reading Believe In Belief
Them, Then And There
Privacy and solitude have their place. There are times when when need to step back, untangle a few of the emotional knots in our lives and languish in the peace of our own company. But, for most people, those times are rare. What we crave above all else is companionship and connection. For the sake … Continue reading Them, Then And There
A Ration Of Compassion
Far too much emotional energy is put into finding fault with the person we are. Blame and shame sit in the spaces that should be occupied by pride and contentment. We are who we are and we are where we are because of everything that has happened to us and through us in the past. … Continue reading A Ration Of Compassion
The Eyes Have It
Electronics may have done their bit to simplify connection but, at the same time, communication has been compromised. True communication can only be fully achieved when two people occupy the same space at the same time and make eye-to-eye contact. It's the physical proximity that makes the world of difference. It's when we are in … Continue reading The Eyes Have It