The importance of communication cannot be overstated. We need to talk. We need to express our feelings. We are driven to give voice to the conversations and arguments that take place inside our heads. It's in putting our thoughts into words that we can start to make some sense of them. Being heard is one … Continue reading The Natter That Matters →

It's true that confession is good for the soul. It can be therapeutic to face our fears, failings and short-comings. But confession alone is not enough. To be most effective it must be followed by a conscious effort to change. The process involves telling someone else about that which is troubling us. Often, though, the … Continue reading Getting To Know Me →

Confusion, suffering and pain occupies the vast expanse of no man's land that lies between the two extremes of self-loathing and self-loving. Depending on what is happening within us and around us it can take various degrees of concerted effort to avoid the two extremes and find a comfortable place to settle. There's a problem … Continue reading Contentment Or Resentment →

Everyone has a story to tell...a story of who we were, who we are and who we hope to become. Each story is as unique as its teller and each story has elements of defeat, victory, hope and despair. But even though the story is ours and ours alone some people choose not to tell … Continue reading A Tale To Tell →

It can often be far easier to forgive someone else than it is to forgive ourselves. Past errors or transgressions may have long been forgotten by everyone but the person we know ourself to be. We pack the memory, the pain and the shame into our personal grief case and continue to carry it with … Continue reading The Deal With Forgiveness →

There is much we can do. Much we can achieve. But there is also much which we are unable to do...situations, circumstances and individuals over which we have no control. There are things that will never change despite our very best efforts. Despite that here is both satisfaction and frustration in wishing and hoping. Optimism … Continue reading Begin With The Within →

Despite personal conviction and regardless of belief in self we crave reassurance and approval. It matters little what we believe and why we believe it, we still need to know that there are others of like mind. Individuality is very much over-rated when it collides head-on with herd mentality. The clash generates doubt and doubt … Continue reading Enough Is Enough →

We all have a need to be seen and heard. Acknowledgment is vital. We seek inclusion and the approval of others. We want to be part of the whole. But the price of recognition is exposure and, for many, that is too high a price to pay. The answer is to develop a persona that … Continue reading The Key Of Knowledge →

We all seek inclusion. We all want to be part of something outside of ourselves...something bigger and preferably better. But want and need do not add up to achievement and satisfaction. Desire is one thing. Contentment sits at the other end of the emotional spectrum. Much of our life is spent attempting to bridge the … Continue reading Giving And Getting →

Two essentials when it comes to the delicate issue of mental stability are connection and communication. If one or both are not present balance and clarity can become confusion. Quite often connection can involve re-reconnection...refreshing past links...renewing and re-envigorating friendships. But connection is incomplete without communication. We need to talk. We need to give voice … Continue reading The Power Of Chat →