Far too much of our valuable emotional energy is spent lamenting past mistakes. Equally, far too much of that same energy is spent being concerned about the future. We all have a past and we all hope to have a future. We know where we have been and we can predict where it is that … Continue reading Look, Listen And Learn
Author: garybentleycounselling
After 40 years in the media, several years in business and a total of 37 years married life, I am now a fulltime and qualified counsellor with a passion to help individuals become the best person they can be.
Inside, Outside, Upside Down
Knee-jerk reactions are inadvisable. A decision made in haste can often be regretted. Emotional and psychological upheaval can be the direct result of an ill-considered action. We can easily do and think things that are simply not in our best interests. There are times when we forget to be kind to ourselves. There are occasions … Continue reading Inside, Outside, Upside Down
Life Is What We Make It
There is little likelihood that - despite our very best efforts - we will ever reach our full potential. There will always be room for improvement and for reinvention. The problem is that, from the moment we are born, life starts to get in the way. The promise of a full and satisfying life is … Continue reading Life Is What We Make It
Love’s Labour’s Languish
It's convenient to believe that love conquers all. The truth is love can fall far short of meaningful connection. While there is sense in the reasoning that love of self is a necessary foundation for progress to the ultimate love of others, it is insufficient when it comes to the cliched concept of two hearts … Continue reading Love’s Labour’s Languish
More Of Less, More Or Less
The pressure to be productive takes its toll. The more we do, the more we have to do. The higher we climb, the greater the incline we feel we are facing. All around us are expectations. Every day we face a barrage of demand for both our attention and our reaction. By far the greatest … Continue reading More Of Less, More Or Less
Seeing, Agreeing, Being
While it's important to always strive for improvement it's essential that we recognise our own limitations and restrictions. Ambition is one thing, practicality another. Too many people are their own worst enemy. Self-imposed expectations lead to criticisms which descend into a form of self-hatred that not only limits potential but robs the individual of the … Continue reading Seeing, Agreeing, Being
Win, Lose Or More
Action without planning is inadvisable. Better to make a considered decision before doing or saying something that could later prove to be regrettable. Haste can result in waste. But planning without action is little more than an exercise in frustration. Every day comes with possibilities...the chance to change direction...to do something different. However every day … Continue reading Win, Lose Or More
Without And Within
It's one thing to know what is right and what is expected but it's another thing entirely to put that knowledge into action. We hold the answers to a great deal of the things that bother us the most within ourselves. We've heard those answers before. We know their truth. But, when challenged, it's often … Continue reading Without And Within
Learn Before The Burn
The potential for job burnout looms large. The problem is that employer and employee expectations do not always align. The more we do, the more we can be expected to do. Quite often, though, that expectation is self-imposed. We are guilty of putting pressure on ourselves. Spending time and effort looking over our shoulder in … Continue reading Learn Before The Burn
The Will And The Way
Anxiety and stress are essential survival tools. It's important to recognise and realise that both are necessary individually and in combination to ensure we are able to regulate the way we function on a daily basis. It's also important to understand that too much stress or too much anxiety can be detrimental to both our … Continue reading The Will And The Way
Gary Bentley Counselling 