The Wages Of Rages

Anger is rife. Agitation and uncertainty abound.

We struggle – to a greater or lesser degree – with the issue of abandonment…specifically the way we feel we are required to cease being one person to become another.

It’s in the gap between the two personalities that we can become confused. At its worst, we can become lost. And it’s that lack of understanding that results in anger.

The anger that we express to others – the anger that they see – is often more an expression of personal inner turmoil than it is a reaction to external stimulus.

No-one is more confused by the anger they see in those around them than the person generating that anger.

An expression of mild annoyance is one thing…an explosion of fury is something else entirely.

A verbal reaction can quickly degenerate into a physical action if not managed properly.

Words hurt but fists leave a very public reminder of an unsavoury encounter resulting from unmanaged and uncontrolled emotion.

Anger left to run its course can not only result in relationship issues but it can also cause health problems of some significance in the perpetrator.

It’s important therefore – for a range of reasons – to control and manage any anger we feel.

Most people can feel the emotion building and that makes it important to take action to either minimise it or block it completely before it results in an outburst.

The most simple solution is to step back from the situation at a time when the anger is felt as justification for stepping forward.

Anger management is all about self control.

We can choose to accept that responsibility or reject it. Either way, the consequences are ours and our alone.