Expectation can often exceed result. What we want is not necessarily what we will get. It’s rare that we plan for a loss but a negative outcome is always a possibility.
In a lifetime we will experience many good things and we’ll experience many bad things. There will be times when our spirits are lifted and other times when they are shattered. It’s the period of time separating the ups from the downs that we must strive to enjoy because neither extreme is a permanent state of being.
The only reasonable tactic ensuring a balanced existence is to make the most of whatever it is that life hands us. That starts with acceptance. No matter if it is good or it is bad it is what it is. And, quite often, it cannot be ignored.
Coping is all about finding a way forward. There are some situations we can get over, others we can go around and more still that we live through. The choice is ours and ours alone.
We can draw strength from the people around us…those who have experienced and survived. But our most valuable ally is the person we know ourselves to be. Recognition of our own strength and reliability is something we should never underplay and neither should it be underestimated.
We are often more resourceful and more equipped than we give ourselves credit for being. But, when the need arises, it may be necessary to dig deep to find that inner strength.
In the final analysis life is very much what we make it. We have a responsibility to ourselves to strive to endure, to celebrate our victories and accept our defeats.
How we achieve that varies from individual to individual because we are all unique. And we should all be grateful for that.
Gary Bentley Counselling 