The opinion we have of the person we know ourselves to be can dictate the direction personal connections and relationship will either fail or develop. But that is far from the end of the story.
It begins with honest reappraisal and self-assessment. It starts by looking inside and evaluating both our position and our potential. We know the truth that no-one else can see. We know who we are, what we want and what we need. That knowledge, however, can result in a crisis of confidence.
The noise made by those around us can drown out the quiet, still voice inside of us. Anxious to meet the needs of others we can set our own needs to one side. We can drain our emotional tanks for what we perceive as all the right reasons. We can be caught in the trap of giving all to everyone but nothing to ourselves.
It’s when we reach the point where we have nothing left to give that we are forced to realise that change is needed.
The problem with change, however, is that it involves choice. It means switching opinion and emphasis…altering our direction.
It’s at that point so many of can become frozen. We know what needs to be done. So many of the answers we require are right there inside our heads and our hearts. What we need is the strength to choose and the support to keep moving forward.
Ignoring the truth will not mean that it ceases to be the truth. Deciding to choose something we know to be wrong will not make it right.
We all have a conscience. What we need is the courage to give ourselves the strength to exercise it.
Gary Bentley Counselling 