Self image is often overlooked when it comes to the issue of mental anguish and wellbeing. But what we think of the person we are is a predictor of what we will think of the people around us.
If we have a poor relationship with ourselves then it is more thank likely we will have a poor relationship with friends, family members and general acquaintances.
If we lack compassion and kindness for ourselves it will be more than difficult to find compassion and kindness for others.
It’s important, therefore, to take a good look inside of our own head and heart to see what we have before looking outside to see what we can get.
If we discover that what we have is inadequate or lacking in any way we then face the choice of change as opposed to the choice of complacency. Importantly, though, there can be no choice without honest reassessment. It’s not possible to alter something we refuse to acknowledge or are simply unable to see.
While ignorance can be both an excuse and a choice, we must accept that there can be no improvement in attitude or behaviour if there is no alteration in direction.
We must first know ourselves and then build on that knowledge so we reach a point where we are not only content and satisfied with the person we are but we can love the person we are.
Love and happiness have something in common. Both come from inside of us. We are responsible for both and both need to be nurtured.
What we do with both will dictate the direction of our life.
Gary Bentley Counselling 