So much energy put into the effort of attempting to make things the way we would prefer them to be. What we want, however, is not always what we get or what we need.
A lot of emotional and physical strength is wasted struggling with issues and individuals over which we have neither control nor influence.
For that reason alone it’s important that we recognise our own limitations and, in so doing, established some protective boundaries. We need to take care of the person we are.
Too often we treat ourselves unfairly. Too often we saddle ourselves with expectations that are simply not able to be realised. Too often we are kinder to those people around us than we are to ourselves.
The energy we burn in unproductive pursuits can be better spent.
We have to learn how to pick our arguments and the disputes we are willing to engage in.
True change does not start as a result of the energy we burn looking outside of the person we are. True change starts because we take the time and effort to look within.
Perfection is an ideal worth pursuing but only after we accept that it is unattainable.
Reassessment and appraisal is only the start of the journey. We have the choice to ignore our own shortcomings thereby guaranteeing repeated failings or take the initiative to do things differently.
Quite often the fear of success can be greater than the fear of failure.
Gary Bentley Counselling 