There is little likelihood that – despite our very best efforts – we will ever reach our full potential. There will always be room for improvement and for reinvention.
The problem is that, from the moment we are born, life starts to get in the way. The promise of a full and satisfying life is clouded by self-sabotage and insecurity. What starts with innocence and unlimited possibility becomes drudgery as we become saddled by the expectations and interference of others.
So many people drag themselves through life trapped in a cage of their own creation.
The good news is that change is always possible. It does not have to be monumental. It can be incremental. All too often the answers we seek are buried inside of us, hidden under the accumulated clutter of survival.
Accepting the understanding that the pain we carry from past experiences belongs to then and not to now can be the first step. Memories are forever. Emotional suffering though survives as long as we feed it.
Acceptance is followed by a planning stage. Alternatives and possibilities must be examined. A preferred course of action could well be a calculated risk. Anything else is nothing.
It’s by looking inside ourselves that we come to an understanding of what we want, what we need and what we must do to get it.
It’s at the action stage, however, that many of us falter. We can go to great pains to make ourselves believe that the lies we tell ourselves have a basis in truth.
If no action is taken there can be no change.
We must decide for ourselves.
Gary Bentley Counselling 