We can be a poor judge of our own emotional wellbeing.
How we see ourselves can be clouded by our history, the challenges we face today and our concerns for the future.
All too often we expect more of ourselves than those around us expect…and that can be particularly true in the workplace.
Over-thinking generated by self criticism can be exhausting. For that reason alone the occasional emotional audit can be more than valuable.
It’s essential to step back and take a look at where we’ve come from, where we are and where we want to get to. Only then can planning be truly effective.
First, though, it can be more than helpful to give voice to our concerns…to drag them out from the dark recesses of our mind and expose them to the light of realism.
Conversation is key. Honest dialogue with a trusted friend or partner can be cathartic; with a professional it can be transformative.
Simpler still but also beneficial is making lists. Putting pen to paper gives us the opportunity to see the good and the bad in our lives. When those things are visible outside of ourselves they can assume a different level of importance or urgency.
It’s essential to prioritise. Put lists in order of importance. When we see what we have written or hear what it is that we are saying we are giving ourselves a far better chance of reaching a resolution because we are able to identify a place to start.
For something to have an end it must first have a beginning.
Knowing what is needed and should be done is one thing. Doing something about it is something else entirely.
Gary Bentley Counselling 