Pain Past and Present

When we fail to come to terms with our past we can rob ourselves of the enjoyment of the present and cloud our future.

To get to today we have had many yesterdays and not all of those yesterdays were perfect. The problem is that all too often we carry the pain and the confusion of the wrongs of days gone by with us as we continue on our life’s journey.

We hide misery and suffering but fail to release ourselves from it. It accumulates and feeds off itself. When the burden gets too great we run the risk of suffering an emotional collapse.

So much of the emotional turmoil we suffer is linked to the person we were and the contribution that has made to the person we are.

For that reason it is important to make peace with ourselves…to make the effort to understand and ultimately forgive the person we were. And if it’s not forgiveness that is needed then acceptance and context are important contributors to decreasing the emotional load we are struggling to carry.

Who we were should not be allowed to define who we are just as who we are does not have to dictate who we will be in the future.

Recovery and change are possible. By coming to terms with our past we can accept and appreciate our present. We can move forward rather than spend far too much of our time looking over our shoulder at what was.

The links are there but all too often we choose to ignore them.

Change takes effort and it can involve pain. But no-one can do it for us. The responsibility is ours and so too are the rewards.