The Natter That Matters

The importance of communication cannot be overstated. We need to talk. We need to express our feelings. We are driven to give voice to the conversations and arguments that take place inside our heads.

It’s in putting our thoughts into words that we can start to make some sense of them.

Being heard is one thing. Being understood can be another thing entirely.

The most important part of communication is actually hearing what it is that we are saying. There is a very good chance that we carry the solution to our own problems within us. We know what we want. We know what we need. And we know the action that should be taken to get us from one point to another. But while that information remains locked in our heads and our hearts we can either avoid it or ignore it completely.

When we verbalise, when we orally express, when we externalise that which we are internalising we are breaking down the barriers that separate us from the truth we know.

We know what we want to say. We know what we need to say. We know when we should be asking for help. But there is a reluctance sometimes borne of shame or fear of judgement but more often borne of the fear of inadequacy.

While it’s true that actions speak louder than words it’s equally true that words are a window to the soul. Our true person is revealed and expressed through conversation.

Importantly, it’s through conversation that we protect and repair our own mental wellbeing.

Talk may often be derided as something that is cheap…but talk is also very therapeutic.

Conversation does not have to be confession…confession comes when the time is right.

It’s the natter that matters.