More often than not we face ongoing difficulty when it comes to dealing with trauma and crisis. The day of the event calls for action, the ongoing weeks and months require reaction.
It’s our ability to survive a setback that determines our mental stability and, ultimately, our happiness.
Anything too difficult to deal with at the time is packed into our personal griefcase but we hide it and its contents from the world and carry it around in silence.
Over time, however, our griefcase grows heavier until the burden demands that we face the things we know are inside but which we have largely managed to suppress.
Survival is at one level, coping is at another level altogether. Survival is a drain on our mental resources; coping is all about reaching a point where the good and bad can be kept in balance.
It’s not a matter of “getting over” a critical occurrence in our lives. Once it has happened it becomes part of the person we are. But it is a matter of “getting through” by finding that place where we are able to gain a better understanding and find some peace.
We are all responsible for our own happiness. Sometimes we are required to reach deep within ourselves to find it.
The point, however, is that we are more resourceful and stronger than we give ourselves credit for being.
We are enough.
Gary Bentley Counselling 