Closure is rarely a simple thing. Nor is it necessarily unemotional.
Ending something that had a beginning and a middle that involved commitment and effort is often difficult. Everything is built on relationships. It’s how we deal with the connection and disconnection with those around us that determines how we live our lives.
It’s true that all things must pass. It’s equally true that some things will last longer than others.
Closure may end connection but it does not compensate for the collateral damage that remains, erode the good memories or downgrade the lessons learned .
For the sake of our emotional wellbeing and our mental health it’s important to draw all the positives we can from what has passed to enable us to grow into our future.
We are given the choice of becoming a victim of the negatives in our history or the victor over them. The decision is ours and ours alone. We may live with the consequences of our actions but that does not mean we have to be have to be constricted by them.
We can move on. The story of our life thus far need not be the end of the tale. From today we can begin to write a new ending. The power and potential is within us all.
Every ending is an opportunity for a new beginning.
Gary Bentley Counselling 