A Friend In Deed

Life is a series of hellos and goodbyes. We spend a lot of time meeting and greeting and on closures and goodbyes.

Some people come into our lives for a brief period of time while others are with us for years.

It’s the gap between the start of a friendship or relationship and its ultimate end that is of most importance.

The value lies between the two extremes. Good, bad or indifferent…it all depends on the individual effort of those involved.

So much of the material the average person packs into their own grief case centres around guilt over what could have been. We are left wondering how different things could have been if circumstances and situations had been different. Mulling over the could haves and the should haves can ultimately be self destructive.

But it should never be forgotten that a relationship is not a relationship if it involves nothing more than the efforts of an individual. It takes two. And, for that reason alone, not every connection stays intact.

Friendships and relationships take effort but any review should focus on the contribution we are making rather than on the return we are expecting.

We can only do so much. If the other party decides not to be involved there is probably little that can be done.

Self care is often neglected. We ignore it at our peril.