When it comes to the matters of both emotional and psychological wellbeing, there is no shortage of advice. Credentialed experts and well-meaning friends and family all have an opinion. We are told what it is that we should be feeling in our heads and our hearts, how long that feeling can be expected to last and what we should be doing to accelerate the process.
But what is too often ignored in the avalanche of advice is the fact that we are all individuals. As much as we are alike, so too are we different. What works for one person can disappoint another.
That’s not to suggest that the advice of others should be ignored. There is nothing new under the sun and anyone who has gone before us has been changed by their experiences, good or bad.
What we need to do is to consider what we are being told and weigh that up against the person we know ourselves to be.
As individuals we set the pace of our own lives. While some function at breakneck speed others are far more methodical.
Principles may remain but their application varies person to person.
Self criticism is one of the most destructive forces in anyone’s life. We can do far more damage to ourselves than anyone else can manage.
We must listen, learn and love…and start it all where we’re at.
Gary Bentley Counselling 