Personal growth involves potential and commitment. The former is all to do with environmental conditions – situations and circumstances often beyond our control. But the latter is about the person we are and the effort we make.
So much of the emotional pain we experience has our own lack of understanding of the who that we are at its root cause. We hurt because our lack of connection with ourselves impacts on our connection with those around us.
We need ourselves more than we need others. We need ourselves to be our own best friend. We need ourselves to be good company, kind and caring.
The most difficult thing about learning life’s lessons is the pain that comes with personal growth. No-one likes to hurt.
But we need to know that the person looking back at us in the mirror is on our side. We need to trust ourselves and rely on ourselves.
Loneliness is the byproduct of a lack of relationship.
The truth is that we can never be truly alone because we will always have a relationship – good or bad – with ourselves.
It’s up to us to make that relationship the best one ever and that is more to do with what is inside of us than that which surrounds us.
It can be done and it’s worth the effort.
Gary Bentley Counselling 