The Who That We Are

While there’s some comfort to be drawn from the belief that a problem shared is a problem halved, it’s also true that half a problem can still be a considerable strain on a person’s mental well-being.

Many of us have a tendency to hold our problems close ignoring the fact that ownership is onerous and avoidance is linked to anxiety. 

It would seem to be far better to confront the issue and pursue it through to resolution. But theory is one thing, practice something else entirely.

Clarity is essential but can be hard to find when shrouded in emotion. If we are unable to understand the size and the shape of the problem we are facing the pathway around it or through it will be hard to see.

A step backward giving time and space to breathe and reassess is often a better idea than a full-blooded front-on assault.

Problem solving, however, is not an all or nothing issue. But it can be as difficult as we allow it to be.

While it must be accepted that a conclusion is not reached to every conundrum no matter what amount of passion and energy is expended, it is possible to ease the overall burden. It’s only by putting effort into unpacking the griefcase we all carry – the one we keep replenishing – that we can hope to smooth the road we are travelling.

As an individual we can only do so much. We have limitations. We also have responsibilities. The first of those responsibilities is to self. No-one else can be the who that we are.