The Comfort Of Coping

We are all damaged. We all have worries. We all have wounds.

Every one of us has a personal grief case into which we pack those thoughts and concerns that we find too challenging to confront or difficult to resolve. The weight varies and shifts as we make our way through life but the burden remains.

And while physical scars can be both understood and explained, those we carry in our heart and soul can cause confusion and trouble us to the point of mental anguish.

So many of the wounds that we have suffered and, indeed, those both current and to come, may not be of our own doing. We have been damaged by circumstances beyond our control and by individuals outside our understanding. The pain remains. It need not be that way.

Blame for the hurt may be easy to apportion to others. Responsibility for the healing rests with the damaged individual.

The risk we all face is that the weight of our wounds will increase to the point where our spirit is crushed. But before we reach the tipping point when both strength and sanity are challenged we must resolve to open our grief case, rummage through its contents and then commit to change.

Healing is only possible through change and change is only possible through honest and continuous effort. There is no-one other than self who can make that effort. We can be encouraged to change, shown how to change and given the tools to change but only we can be the agent of that change. We are our own responsibility.

True healing is not the removal of scars or the refusal to recognise wounds. True healing is understanding and dealing with personal pain. It’s finding a way to move forward through the comfort of coping.