We are who we choose to be. While we are the sum of all our parts and all our experiences, the person we are today is the person we have decided to be. The responsibility is entirely personal.
We can be pleasant and agreeable, co-operative and happy or we can embrace and project attitudes that fall far short of all or any of those benchmarks. And, in the final analysis, there can be no-one to blame but ourselves.
We are without excuse because it’s within our scope to change. It’s altogether possible to find something unsavoury or unacceptable in our character and then set out on the path to reinvention. If we want to.
The problem with reinvention is that it takes effort and commitment…and it takes time. All that considered, many of us decide early that it’s all too difficult. We choose to blame others for their personalities and their predicaments. After all, it’s a whole lot easier to point the finger than it is to look in the mirror.
Most of us want to become better people. Without that desire the world would be robbed of all love and compassion. Love and compassion are two of the more significant emotions that hold society together.
A good rule of thumb is to start every day with a smile. Regardless. In spite of. Just because.
There’s every chance that the smile may be forced…that it’s not an accurate reflection of the person inside.
But smiles are inextricably linked with positivity and happiness. The more we smile, the better we feel. And those around us benefit. Smiles beget smiles. Good cheer encourages good cheer.
No-one else can smile for us. We choose how we work our face. We decide the attitude we will project. And it’s so very true that a the shortest distance between two people is a smile.
Gary Bentley Counselling 