Not every day can be a happy day. But every day we can choose to be happy. We can have a target…an aim…an objective…to make each day the best it can possibly be for us and those around us.
Every day we can make the conscious decision to put effort into rising above the negatives that surround us, consume us and sometimes threaten to overwhelm us. Some days – depending on circumstances and personal reserves of strength and determination – we will be more successful than others. Everyone has good days and everyone has days they would rather forget. We are all human.
It’s no secret that the way to win the battle is to continue the fight. Determination will bring reward.
For some people the definition of happiness is living life on an emotional high…a state of continuous, uninterrupted joy. Clearly, though, that is unsustainable.
True happiness is about balance, contentment and deep satisfaction. As such we have to accept that we are all different. The wants and needs of one person will not always match the wants and needs of another. What makes one person happen may fail to impress another.
We are all responsible for our own happiness. We can control it, nourish it and direct it. At the other end of the emotional scale we have the same power over sadness. The safest and most comfortable place to live our lives is somewhere between the two extremes but the skill to do that does not come naturally to a great many people. It’s something we may have to learn.
If we accept that we need to learn that skill there are teachers among us. There are those who have learned the lessons we need to learn and they are willing and able to pass on the benefit of their experience.
We need never feel isolated or helpless. All we need do is ask.
Gary Bentley Counselling 