Rash decisions are often regretted. It’s rare that a choice made on the run is a wise choice. Short-term satisfaction without the consideration of long-term implication can be a mistake that increases in magnitude as time passes.
Over-thinking can also be an error. Delayed decisions can result in missed opportunities. Snoozers are losers.
The objective should always be to live life at a more measured and considered pace; to base expectation on experience; to hasten slowly. The aim should be to avoid conflict and disruption; to live life in peace.
It’s the reality of day-to-day existence that turns what we want into what we have. It’s the frenetic pace of life that so often changes who we want to be into who we are. Disappointment can quickly overshadow dreams. Acceptance can deteriorate into defeat.
It need not be that way. It’s a matter of choice as to whether that’s the end of our story. Only the individual can decide. Reappraisal and reinvention are always available alternatives. Change in attitude and behaviour can be more realistically achievable than change in situation but progress is always possible.
Building a bridge between from where we are and where we want to be takes more effort than imagination…but the former must follow the latter. It must be borne in mind, however, that the picture of our life is not painted in broad sweeps but in colourful increments. Small unceasing steps have more chance of success than giant leaps. Grand gestures are not as effective as consistent, persistent effort.
Comparisons are odious. One person’s measure of success is not the same as that of another person. Circumstance and opportunity play their part in the outcome.
What matters in the final analysis is that an individual tried and consistently worked to become the best version of themselves. That’s all any of us can do.
Gary Bentley Counselling 